I like shoes with heels. I mean, I like the way they look, the way they make my legs seem longer. But I hate wearing them. It is a torture! So now I don’t. Although, I have a couple of pairs of boots on heels from way back when I was more preoccupied with being feminine. And I do use them, mainly because I don’t want to throw away some perfectly fine footwear!
You know, now when I look at high-heeled shoes, even at shoes with more reasonable heels, I see a pretty annoying vicious circle. For years and years women have been told that they are the “weaker” sex because they cannot engage in the same kind of physical activities as men. Women were told that, as they get tired too fast and cannot lift heavy things, they should just be pretty. And to be pretty, they were supposed to wear certain clothes – like skirts, heels, and dresses. And if they did not want to do that – well, then they were informed that they are just not feminine enough. Have you tried lifting heavy stuff in a tight dress, or running in a skirt and heels (even small ones)? It is no fun. So women were supposed to look a certain way; they got all sorts of subtle and not very subtle messages that they are supposed to look this way to be accepted, loved, popular. And to look this way they had to dress a certain way. And dressing this way they did not have much opportunity to train their bodies to be more strong. And then they were told, – well, no surprise you are weak, after all, you are a woman, so shut up and be pretty.
Since I (almost) stopped wearing shoes with heels, I walk so much more than I used to. And I am very happy about it. Once my boots with heels are old, I am going to throw them away, and I am not going to buy other footwear with heels, ever. And I am going to walk a lot, because walking is good for health (not in heels, though).
I just wish that our culture was not connecting heels with femininity so much. I have a great respect for Madonna, for example, and I think that she does a lot of important things, but why does she always have to wear high-heeled shoes when on stage? She jumps in them, and she makes it seem so easy – but it is not. It is uncomfortable and it hurts. And so many other female celebrities wear high-heeled shoes when in public. I think it sends a very bad message to all the girls out there.
I don’t want to sound old and grumpy, and people can certainly wear whatever they want. But I think we should seriously reconsider the connection between heels and femininity. Some are already moving in this direction. Let’s think of ways to spread the word.