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NEW ESSAY: Why Is It So Hard to Live Together?

7/26/2026

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This is the latest essay I published in my project​ Me, Looking for Meaning. 

Have you recently felt annoyed by someone you live with?

Maybe they leave dishes in the sink longer than you would. Maybe they put things away in places that make no sense to you. Maybe they clean too often—or not often enough. Maybe they cook differently, organize the house differently, wake up earlier than you’d like, or somehow always manage to be in the kitchen exactly when you need it.

The details are almost beside the point. Most of us can think of countless small habits that have irritated us at one time or another. And often these are not people we dislike. They are people we love, people we chose to live with, and people whose company we otherwise genuinely enjoy.

So why is living together so difficult?

You can continue reading here.
[This essay will be included in Newsletter#24.]
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  • About
  • Books
    • Media is us >
      • Principles of communication
      • Micro- and macropower
      • ACE model
      • Description of chapters
    • Hypertexts >
      • Me, looking for meaning >
        • A >
          • Are you an individual?
        • B
        • C >
          • Culture is human nature
          • The Curse of Special
        • D
        • E >
          • Empathy with Boundaries
        • F
        • G
        • H >
          • Human thinking
          • Human thinking is nonlinear
        • I >
          • Ideas
        • J
        • K
        • L >
          • List of completed pages
          • The Lure of Special
        • M >
          • Make Sense
          • Mean and stupid
          • Meaning
          • Meaningless
          • Meaning-making vs. sensemaking
          • My quest for meaning
          • The Myth of "Bad People"
        • N >
          • Narratives and Circumstances
        • O >
          • On being a scholar
        • P >
          • Postmodern philosophy
          • The Problem With Needing to Be Good
        • Q
        • R >
          • Reality
          • Rethinking What It Means to “Love Your Enemy”
          • Rhizome in philosophy
        • S >
          • Stories we tell
          • Stories That Hold: Narrative, Identity, and the Work of Continuity
          • Symbolic interactionism and Buddhism
        • T >
          • The importance of having a purpose
          • Three Blind Men vs Rashomon
          • Three Coordinates
          • Trust and Conflict (and Dragons)
        • U
        • V
        • W >
          • What does it mean to "understand"?
          • Why do people hurt each other?
          • Why is it so hard to live together?
          • Why is language so unhelpful?
          • Moral complexity and ambiguity of truth in Wicked
        • X
        • Y
        • Z
  • Editing
    • Me as your editor
    • How I will help you
    • Pricing
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      • Butterfly (poem)
      • One day, I will return (poem)
      • Where are you now? (poem)
      • Hole in the world (poem)
      • Wondering (poem)
      • Wanderer II (poem)
      • What people call love (poem)
      • Lullaby (poem)
      • You Walk Along These Streets (Poem in Russian)
    • Russian poems >
      • Stranger
      • Lonely heart
      • Fairy tales
      • Dreams and nightmares
      • Puzzles
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      • Seasons
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