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Human Thinking Is Nonlinear

*last updated on January 7, 2026
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Image credit: Richard Giblett
To communicate with each other, we often put our ideas into a linear form. (But not always. A great deal of what we convey—especially emotion, attitude, and relational intent—travels through tone, timing, facial expression, gesture, and context, in ways that don’t reduce neatly to words.) Words are strings of letters. Sentences are strings of words. Books are strings of sentences. Conversation unfolds one phrase after another; a lecture has an opening, a middle, a conclusion. This sequencing is so familiar that it can feel like the natural shape of thought itself—until we remember how often we struggle to express ourselves. The difficulty shows up most reliably when we try to grasp something complex and then share what we think about it: a political dilemma that has no clean “side,” a relationship conflict where everyone is both right and wrong, a personal experience that doesn’t translate into a single lesson, a moral question that keeps changing shape as we look at it.
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Part of the problem is that language, especially written language, has built-in demands. It requires choices: what comes first, what gets defined, what gets framed as background, what becomes the “main point.” It pushes us toward hierarchy—this is the thesis, these are the supporting ideas—because that is how a reader can follow. And it pushes us toward explicitness: we have to name what we mean. But much of what we mean lives in an in-between zone before it has names. We feel it, intuit it, recognize it, or sense its contour—yet we cannot immediately turn it into a sentence that stands on its own.

As a writer, I know this battle well. When I’m still thinking, ideas feel beautifully intertwined. They lead to one another; they make sense. They don’t line up—they cluster. I’ll have a concept in my mind, but it arrives with a small constellation around it: a memory, an image, a phrase I once read, an emotional tone, a vague objection, an example that feels relevant but not obviously so. In that internal space, the connections don’t need to be spelled out. Everything is “there” at once, as if the mind is holding a handful of threads and somehow knowing which ones belong together.

And then I try to translate them into words, connect words into sentences, and build a whole page out of that… Ugh. What is going on? The result is so far from what I envisioned. Not only do some threads get lost, but the surviving ones can look oddly stiff, as if they’ve been flattened. I begin to notice problems that did not exist in my head: the transitions feel forced; the pacing feels wrong; one paragraph seems to pull focus from the next. I have to decide whether a point is “primary” or “secondary,” and the decision itself can feel dishonest, because what mattered in my thinking was the relationship between ideas, not their rank.

So many things I wanted to say end up left out—not because they’re irrelevant, but because I can’t find a clean way to fit them together. Sometimes I cut an example because it interrupts the “flow,” even though the example was the very reason the idea felt real. Sometimes I omit an important caveat because it would require a detour, and detours annoy readers (and writers). Sometimes I keep the caveat but lose the emotional truth, because I’ve overedited the sentence and forgot what it was supposed to say.

At first, I assumed something must be wrong with my ideas, with my writing skills, maybe even with me. Many writers know this particular shame: the suspicion that if we were truly smart, we would be able to say it clearly the first time. We imagine that coherent writing is evidence of coherent thinking, and tangled writing is evidence of tangled minds. But that assumption confuses two different crafts. Thinking and writing are related, but they are not the same activity. Writing is not a transparent window into thought; it is a technology for reshaping thought—sometimes just a vague intuition—into something shareable.

But there is nothing wrong. This is simply how it works, because a lot of human thinking is not naturally arranged in a single file line. Much of idea generation and recall relies on association—networks of related concepts where activation spreads from one node to another—and we do not always have conscious access to the full route by which one thought led to the next. We can reason sequentially, of course; we do it whenever we follow steps in a proof, plan a schedule, or explain a chain of causes. But the raw material that reasoning draws on—images, memories, fragments of language, emotional signals—often arrives in a less orderly way.

That is why we can arrive at a “random” thought without being able to retrace the path that led us there. Our minds do a lot of processing outside awareness: automatic, background activity that influences what becomes salient and what feels true before we can justify it in words. Sometimes the offstage work is brilliant: we suddenly see a connection we didn’t know we were looking for. Sometimes it’s misleading: an old pattern hijacks a new situation. Either way, the mind does not always provide a neat receipt.

Paradoxically, we also crave linear narratives, just as we crave order more generally. Linear stories reduce cognitive burden: they help us predict what comes next, keep track of causes, and orient ourselves in a sequence. And research on hypertext reading suggests that when readers have to make frequent navigation decisions and manage a non-linear structure, the added demands can impair comprehension and increase disorientation—especially for some tasks and readers. Even when we claim we want complexity, we often want it in controlled doses—complexity that still comes to a resolution.

Many people may not notice how nonlinear their thinking is because they spend so much effort turning nonsequential thoughts into a coherent string of words. In everyday life, we do this constantly and unconsciously. We tell ourselves stories about why we acted the way we did. We compress a week of mixed feelings into one sentence: “I’m fine.” We summarize a tangled conflict into a clean moral: “They’re toxic,” “She’s jealous,” “He’s manipulative.” These summaries can be useful—sometimes we need them to function—but they can also be a kind of self-protection. They make reality manageable by making it narrower.

Writing intensifies this pressure. The reader is not inside the writer’s mind; the reader does not have access to the constellation. So the writer must build a path: step here, then here, then here. The writer must anticipate confusion and prevent it. In this sense, writing is not merely expression; it is hospitality. It is designing a sequence that another mind can walk through.
And we tend to dislike being confronted with a visible tangle of ideas. We often interpret tangles as incompetence, even when they are a sign of sincerity or depth. A messy draft can look like a failure rather than what it is: a record of searching. The same goes for conversations. We are impatient with people who “can’t get to the point,” even though the “point” may not exist yet.

This may be one reason hypertext fiction has largely remained a niche literary form, even though hypertext as a linking technology has become everyday infrastructure. Hypertext makes the branching visible and asks readers to tolerate unfinishedness and choose routes. That can be freeing. It can also be effortful—because non-linear navigation adds cognitive work.

Still, the mismatch between nonlinear thinking and linear communication is not only a limitation; it is also a creative engine. The struggle to write forces us to decide what we mean. It turns vague insight into testable claims. It exposes gaps. It makes us confront the difference between what feels true and what we can actually support. And sometimes the act of forcing ideas into a line doesn’t merely translate thought—it transforms it. We begin with a tangle, and we end with a new shape we didn’t know we could make (happens to me all the time).

​So the problem is not that our minds are flawed. The problem is that we keep mistaking the line for the mind—and then blaming ourselves when the mind refuses to stay inside it.

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I use AI tools as a kind of writing partner—to shape drafts, clarify arguments, and explore phrasing. But the ideas, perspectives, and direction are always my own. Every piece here is part of an evolving personal project. For more details about my use of AI, see here.
  • About
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    • Media is us >
      • Principles of communication
      • Micro- and macropower
      • ACE model
      • Description of chapters
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        • L >
          • List of completed pages
          • The Lure of Special
        • M >
          • Make Sense
          • Mean and stupid
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          • The Myth of "Bad People"
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