Elizaveta Friesem
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Stories We Tell

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What you see here is a page of my hypertext book Me, Looking for Meaning. Initially empty, it will slowly be filled with thoughts, notes, and quotes. One day, I will use them to write a coherent entry, similar to these completed pages. See this post to better understand my creative process. Thank you for your interest and patience! 
media

media representations

​first create stories and then believe on them

we can simultaneously understand that story is made up and let ourselves believe in it; danger comes when lines become particularly blurry (for some individuals) but there is a more insidious problem - assumptions hidden in media representations guide our lives
difficUlt to pinpoint the problem
e.g. representations of romantic relationships
criticidm of Beaty and the beast
fifty shades of grey
Difficult to pinpoint because it can be a matter of interpretation: victimhood or empowerment for the female protagonist?
Also film “secretary”
a harsh way to describe this: in stories we create unicorns that we want to believe, beautiful magical creatures
but if we take a closer look at the inconsistencies, as what is left out of not properly explained, we see that these unicorns are feud that we took a dead horse body and stitched to it a horn and what we are looking at is not a beautiful magical creature but a stinking reeking cadaver
it’s unreal, when we see it as real we are deceiving ourselves, it’s falling apart (illogical story, consistency issues), it’s misleading, it’s not pretty if you take a really close critical look, it’s actually disturbing, but we want to believe in it, so we keep hugging this decomposing horse. And to make it even more complicated: it’s nobody’s fault but it’s everybody’s responsibility to recognize what us going on here

even though most people will not use this movie as a permission to inflict harm (like Armie Hammer) if reflects unrealistic expectations about relationships and perpetuates these expectations
this is not the same as blaming people who created this film, they are chahelling ideas that exist already in society (see macropower)


stories that draw attention are about extraordinary things. They distract us from appreciation of the ordinary, or rather of seeing extraordinary in the ordinary (Wabi Sabi)
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    • About
    • Books
      • Media is us >
        • Principles of communication
        • Micro- and macropower
        • ACE model
        • Description of chapters
        • When conflicts get out of control
      • Hypertexts >
        • Me, looking for meaning >
          • A >
            • Am I strong or am I weak?
          • B >
            • Binaries
            • Both sides
            • Bureaucracy
          • C >
            • Can I give myself credit for being empathetic?
            • Choice
            • Circumstances
            • Cognitive biases
            • Common sense
            • Communication
            • Coincidence
            • Content and form of this book
            • Coronavirus and me
            • Culture
            • Cycle of violence
          • D >
            • Depression
            • Do children ask themselves about the purpose of life?
            • Doing the right thing
          • E >
            • Emotional pain
            • Empathy
            • Empathy as a matter of self-preservation
            • Everybody has their struggles
            • Everybody is connected
            • Explain/excuse conflation
          • F >
            • Feelings and emotions
            • Forgetting about your purpose
            • Free will
          • G >
            • Good vs. Bad
          • H >
            • How much do we understand each other?
            • Human brain
            • Human nature
            • Human needs
            • Human thinking
            • Human thinking is nonlinear
            • Hurt people hurt people
            • Hypertext books
          • I >
            • I am an optimist
            • Ideas
            • "I'll never understand!"
            • Individual meanings vs. shared meanings
            • Inner compass
            • Interpretation
            • "It is what it is"
          • J
          • K >
            • Knowing your true purpose
            • Knowledge
          • L >
            • Language
            • List of completed pages
            • Literal vs. nonliteral communication
          • M >
            • Make Sense
            • May I meet this, too, with kindness
            • Meaning as importance
            • Mean and stupid
            • My Anxiety
            • Meaning
            • Meaningless
            • Meaning wars
            • Meaning of life
            • Meaning communities
            • Meanings perceived by animals
            • Meaning-seeking vs. meaning-making
            • Media
            • (Mis)understanding each other's needs
            • My perfectionism
            • My quest for meaning
          • N >
            • Norms
          • O >
            • Objectification
            • On being a scholar
            • On being a writer
            • On being right
          • P >
            • Paradox
            • Parenting
            • Privilege
            • Polarization
            • Postmodern worldview
            • Postmodern philosophy
            • Power
            • Power of the mind
            • Problem/solution binary
          • Q
          • R >
            • Reality
            • Rhizome in philosophy
          • S >
            • Science, religion and art
            • Self-awareness and empathy of higher order
            • Self-awareness
            • Self-empathy
            • Stories we tell
            • Society vs Individual
            • Subjectivity and objectivity
            • Suggested citation format
            • Synesthesia
          • T >
            • "The Death of the Author"
            • The importance of having a purpose
            • Truth
          • U >
            • Understanding ourselves
            • Us and them
          • V >
            • Verbal vs. nonverbal communication
            • Violence in the human nature
          • W >
            • What does it mean to "understand"?
            • What is a text?
            • What we can learn about ourselves from media
            • What is "natural"?
            • What's the point?
            • What will this project become?
            • Where do meanings come from?
            • Why am I trying to stay sane?
            • Why do people hurt each other?
            • Why is language so unhelpful?
            • Why do everyday objects make sense?
            • Why do misunderstandings happen?
          • X
          • Y
          • Z
        • Power of meanings // Meanings of power
    • Editing
      • Me as your editor
      • How I will help you
      • Pricing
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      • Five (easy) steps to become media literate
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      • Poetry >
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          • Stranger
          • Lonely heart
          • Fairy tales
          • Dreams and nightmares
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          • Moon
          • Seasons
          • Muse
          • Art
          • Games
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          • Nonsense
        • English poems
      • Epoxy resin
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